Our New Addition.

My husband & I have been talking for awhile if we wanted a boy or a girl and what kind we wanted, and how big they would get. We finally decided to adopt a sweet yellow lab/ golden retriever mix that is 4 months old. His name is bear & he's my little trouble maker. His favorite toy is our left over coke bottles! And it's not just a one day he's done thing, he chews on it for days, most likely weeks at a time.
Bear has made Jess & I closer & made me so so happy. I have someone to keep me company during the day & growl at all the guys that come near me. He is so protective of his momma :)  I could not have picked a better dog. & to know he will be watching over me while Jess is deployed makes me feel even better.

So all my blog readers here is our sweet boy

 

Us & Baby Bear Smith <3

Always In My Heart

C.Smith

Fights- A Moment Of Weakness

Before Jess & I got married we were the couple that never fought and if there was ever a problem we sat and talked about it until it was settled. Now that we're married it seems like sometimes we just fight for the hell of it. I hate fighting and I always will. I feel like shit after every fight, it makes me feel like a failure as a wife that I can not keep things together for him. I do my best around the house and taking care of all his stuff but sometimes I get busy. I am a full time student, full time nanny to a 4 month old baby, and a full time housewife. Eventually you run out of time, the day ends, and there are things that are forgotten. I know I am expected to be this person who never hurts and is indestructible but even a marine wife has her moments of weakness. I see fights as the point where someone is at their weakest and yet they are still picked on and they fall even more. I love my husband more than life itself, but I DO NOT love the fighting! I feel like it is a breaking point for a relationship and after it's over you have to rebuild, like when battles happen and cities have to rebuild.

As bad as this might sound it sometimes help that my husband is a marine, cause there are times when our relationship gets tough and then he has to go away for a week or a few months. And then the time apart heals things.

always in my heart
c.smith

Military Wife Poem

The average age of the military wife is 20 years old.
She isn't old enough to buy a beer, but is old enough to manage a whole ho...usehold on her own, and maybe, has a kid or two.
She probably never saw herself loving a man who was in the military, but she loves him regardless.
Her penmanship has improved over the last few months or years, due to the excessive letter writing she has been doing.
She cries alot, because she misses the man she swore to love. Her life isn't complete without him.
She looks very tired, because of her many nights without sleep, due to a late night phone call that never came or a call that came and kept her up all night, just because she heard his voice and is too overjoyed to sleep.
As a wife, she is classified as a dependent, but she is totally independent. She tends to her household, her kids, her school work, and her job, all without her husband.
She manages to wear a smile, even though inside she's crying.
She understands that the man she loves has to go far away and is proud of him but also scared for him.
She understands that he can be taken away from her in a moment.
She feels a great sense of pride and gets teary eyed whenever she hears the National Anthem, sees a flag blowing in the breeze, or watches the news and hears about another soldier dying.
She goes weeks without a call or a letter, but she writes him every second she gets.
She knows how to convert civilian time into military time.
She knows how to iron his clothes and how to get the creases just right.
She gets annoyed when she hears someone complaining about not seeing their boyfriend for a few hours or a few days.
She may not have see him for months but she remembers everything about him, every scar he has, the way he smells, whether or not he snores, the look in his eyes and the way he feels when she holds him.
She has every picture of him and them out, and in frames, and she stares at them for hours on end
She has read every letter and e-mail over and over again.
Even though her man is half a world away, she still manages to go on with her life, as he would want her to.
She has at least one Support out Troops pen and a magnet on her car.
Half her wardrobe is based on his military branch. She never knew that she could love camouflage.
Next time you see her, you'll know her, thank her for what the man she loves is doing. She will greatly appreciate it and she will smile and thank you. Just because you thanked her she will smile the rest of of of the day!

The Now

Everyone misses the past from time to time, especially us living this military life knowing, the past was a time when we didn't have to say goodbye. The great thing about life is that it is always going, right now it is passing by the seconds. There is always time for change. If you don't like the way something is, if you have the power to change it, DO IT! Do not let another minute pass that you are unhappy with the life you have. I got lucky to have my best friend walk by my side for the rest of my life, MY HUSBAND. :) He tries so hard to make me happy every second of every day. There are days I wonder what my life would be like if we had never gotten back together and gotten married. Then I look around and see that if we didn't take this leap we wouldn't have each other. I may have given up a lot to be here, some friends, leaving my hometown (comfort zone), and having my family right there. I see now that, that is a part of life! You sometimes give up things to make room for the new things life has to show you. I have made great new friends and gotten to keep some of my old ones ( the real ones). I am still very close with my family, they are so supportive of our marriage and are always calling to see how we're doing. The now is all about keeping what's important to me and changing what isn't. I usually don't stand up for myself but now I've learned how to, thanks to some of my new friends. Life isn't about being perfect, then it wouldn't be fun.

Always In My Heart
C.Smith